Originally Posted by alwaysbrokegirl
Well this weekend I am starting with a 2 day yard sale to try and sell a bunch of stuff I don't need or want... may even give some away.
I hope to make "some" money though... because I have less than $20 bux to my name right now, and living off Ramon noodles at work.
Anyway, after I get a lot of unwanted stuff out of there and get down to the bare minimum I can go from there.
Our couch is no good.. its all stained up and torn so I am throwing it out.
I know a lot of our problem is all the dirt, cat pee, hair balls, fur and cob webs on everything!!
You see.. him and I have been having marriage problems for about 5 years now and the last year or 2 we both just basicly said F'it we are not doing anything anymore. (around the house, cleaning ect..)
So, we let things go more... and now its SO bad I can't take it any longer.. I am so sad and depressed I am either going to sell everything I own and move out or I am going to go insane...and hurt someone or myself.. I don't know.
No one on earth should EVER have to live like this, not even a animal!!
I will admit, I was not raised to have to always keep my room clean or make my bed everyday when I was growing up but my parents at least kept the house pretty clean.
No his family are almost like neat freaks and if I stayed the night over there I had to make the bed every day and keep my clothes off the floor ect.. (which I didnt always do) and I got my azz chewed out.
ANYWAY.... I plan to sell or get rid of almost everything I have except my computer, my tv, and my car.
Yes, that is the FIRST thing everyone says is get rid of the car. Well... I would sell it or what I owe and then how am going to get another car? I would have to save up $400 a month to get one or a down payment on one. All those "tote-the note lots want $175 or 200 ever 2 weeks so there ya go again.. payments and you have to worry about breaking down because its a older 90's or early 2000's model car.
So... I rather just keep this one and drive it until the wheels fall off...
I understand that you're in a tough spot. But again, if you want things to change, you're going to have to make them change. And that's not going to be easy.
Up to this point, you've been making excuses. Grew up messy, bad marriage, overwhelmed, etc. That has to stop.
You have to replace the excuses with intentional progress. A massive garage sale is a good move. A massive clean-up is extremely important. You have to start somewhere!
The animals living in your house. Honestly, I can only imagine how bad your house smells. Multiple cats & 3 dogs? A house absolutely cannot have that many animals in it without the house turning into a barn. You need to adopt them out to other families. Let them go. As a pet-owner myself, I know it's not going to be easy. But you must
Your car... You have to do something different. $400 per month is more than my mortgage payment on a rental house I am buying. And we both know that insurance, gas, maintenance and registration is in addition to that $400 per month.
Go to a Hyundai and/or Kia dealer. They're always running insane specials on new cars. See if you qualify. You may very well get a new car for half the monthly expense you're now paying.
Or if you really want to save money, you can do what I do. Swallow your pride and drive older vehicles. My personal car is 14 years old and has about 350,000 miles on it. I do my own maintenance, so everything works right. But the point is that, unlike you, I'm NOT paying $5,000 per year on a car.
Again, sorry for the bluntness, but I deal with these kinds of issues with people all the time. Their/your greatest need is to stop looking at the symptoms as though they are the problem.