Remodeling is like the #1 cause of divorce. My opinion is, let her say what she wants, say yes dear and keep going. If she says something about the color of something, hand her the brush...she will decline and you can hand her the brush if she does it again. I even painted my wife, but that's another story.
Don't vent here, communicate with the wife.
I have all kinds of t-shirts with this kind of thing, usually when your done with the project she will be proud of you. If not, show her the NEW front door.