I'm helping my friend renovate his kitchen and had some experience with painting & staining but hadn't stained anything in over 10 years so I was rusty. I used Minwax with some red shade years ago but my friend wanted to make his cabinet look like gray ash. The picture on the Minwax stain can looked like what he wanted so I applied it. First coat showed too much of the wood's yellow through it. I added a 2nd coat & it got rid of most of the yellow, but it looks too much like paint & has a blue-ish tint to it. He wants it to be less blue & slightly darker but also show the wood grain. I'm trying to figure out how to achieve that. I know I can sand the stain down & apply more coats. When I first started putting it on, instead of seeming to soak in to enhance the grain like the other stains I used in the past, it just sort of covered. I made sure to stir it thoroughly so maybe it's just thicker or a different type than I used before. I believe it is an oil based one either this one or a weathered oak. I'm wondering if watering it down would make it apply thinner or if that would mess it up. Whatever I do will have to be repeatable when he gets more cabinets. This was the first coat. And this is the 2nd. It's hard to tell from the pics, but in person it has a bluish tint. Any suggestions?